Emotions

The woman is simpler, more innocent. I would dare to say the woman is simple and innocent just as animals are, because woman, just like animals, is biology-driven. She is emotional, and her emotions do not really arise from understanding, not even from intellect. Her emotions arise from her body, from her biological conditioning, from her hormones.

Hurt is not automatic. Somewhere there is an admission from you that you are hurt, and that you would be hurt, and that you would call yourself as hurt. Don’t call yourself as hurt, and see what happens.

Hurt is not an obligation. Hurt is a choice. Insecurity, fear, temptations—none…

When you don’t operate from a spiritual center, then you operate from an emotional center. These emotions are causing this climate change. You are so emotional about that next foreign holiday, right? That is carbon intensive. You are so emotional about having a good, nice nest of your own—that is…

Emotions, they can do whatever they want to do. It doesn’t matter how I am feeling. What matters is what I must do.

Ask yourself: Had you not been feeling this way or that way, what would have you done? And you will get a very good answer.

When you…

Pay attention to all your thoughts, emotions, actions. Something unknown is waiting there for you. Most people know nothing about themselves.

If you are angry, it tells you that there is something within you that is resisting the world now. Why is it resisting the world? Go into it. Try…

“Why are women so emotional? If we are saying that it is okay for a man to be emotional, there is an implicit assumption that men are not emotional but women are.”

Both are. It’s just that both express their emotionality in different ways. Inner urges, latent tendencies in women…

We all have arguments in favor of our weaknesses, no?

“What do I do? I am just a kid.”

“What do I do? I don’t have the right background.”

“What do I do? I am just twenty years old.”

“What do I do? Nobody helps me.”

“What do I do?…

Channelize your desire. You must know what you are really hungry for. Your central and primary desire is not sex. Sex may appear overpowering, tempting, but that is really not what you ultimately want. Figure out what you really must have, and then sex will be assigned automatically, inwardly, its…

One feels like worshiping the woman for enduring so much. One feels like worshiping the woman for being so willingly exploited. And one feels like slapping her hard in the face for being so stupid. Her own worst enemy she is.

Talk emotions to her, and she will be pleased.…

Instead of proceeding with a packaged product like meat, why don’t you slaughter the thing yourself? And when you slaughter the animal yourself, why don’t you know it fully even as you slaughter it? After all, even from a perspective of self-interest, if something is going into your body, it…

औरतों से मुझे जितनी शिक़ायत है, उतना ही उनको लेकर के दुःख भी है। उनको देखता हूँ, बहुत दुःख लगता है। और शिक़ायत इस बात की है कि वो अपने दुःख का कारण स्वयं हैं। भावना को वो अपना हथियार समझती हैं। देह को वो अपनी पूंजी समझती हैं। देह…

हम इज़्ज़त को बहुत बड़ी बात समझ बैठते हैं। हमारे जीवन का, समय का, ऊर्जा का, ध्यान का न-जाने कितना बड़ा भाग सिर्फ़ दूसरों की नज़रों में अपनी छवि चमकाने में लग जाता है, है न?

हमारी एक-एक भावना अन्ततः सिर्फ़ एक उद्देश्य के लिए है – इस शरीर को…

कोई तुम्हें तुम्हारी ग़लती दिखाए और बुरा अगर तुम्हें लगता है, तो तुम जवान कभी-भी होने से रहे। जिसे जवान होना होता है वो अपनी ग़लतियों का सामना करता है। बहुत होते हैं मोटी खाल के बेशर्म टट्टू, उन्हें कोई फ़र्क ही नहीं पड़ता। उन्हें दिख रहा होगा कि ज़िंदगी…

Before you accept or reject something, before you get wildly drawn to something, or before you just ignore something and move on, pause for five seconds, just five seconds, and ask: What is in it for me? What is the real importance it holds?

Do not be carried away by…

The belief that life is just crumbs and dredges thrown at you—that’s your undoing. You are content with too little.

To avoid facing pain, you have become numb and insensitive towards yourself. Deeper sensitivity results in deeper pain. To avoid facing pain we become insensitive, and when you are insensitive,…

Weakness is such a great strength. The child controls the mother—how? Not through his strength, but through his weakness. Decades and decades of the mother’s life are controlled by the child through the child’s weakness.

If the wife is strong, or if the husband is strong, they would not really…

“You have said that women and men both have emotionality but they express it differently. I have noticed women tend to be more indirect and coy when they talk. Is that again a same trait that is coming out differently?”

It is biological, very biological.

“Let the man make the…

When you are not alright with yourself, then your attitude towards others, the way your energy flows towards others, is called as envy or desire.

If you are envious that somebody has something, then rest assured, you too desire that something. Envy and desire go together. Unless the other has…

The man has seen the emotional side of the mother, so the man knows the woman’s emotionality. But the woman has never seen the sexual side of her father, so the woman really does not know man’s sexuality that much.

Do you get this? The man knows the woman’s emotionality,…

For us, support just means weeping with the weeping one. We totally forget that in most cases the ones who are weeping do not need to weep. The ones who are weeping are needlessly weeping, and if you support their tears, you are supporting their false centers; you are making…

Do not let your inner welfare be conditional. If your inner sense of well-being is dependent on favorable external conditions, then it is a very sorry state to be in, because conditions are never under our control and, I am saying, I will allow myself to feel alright only upon…

Before you accept or reject something, before you get wildly drawn to something, or before you just ignore something and move on, pause for five seconds and ask, “What is in it for me? What is the real importance it holds?”

Do not be carried away by emotions. Do not…

Is lust a thought, or is lust more or less instantaneous? Does lust even give you space to think? In fact, if you could think in the moment of great lust or anger, then you would act better.

Thought has its uses. The emotional ones need to be the thoughtful…

Questioner: How can negative emotions be expressed in a healthy way? Can expressing negative emotions be maladaptive? Does gender have a relation to mental health?

Acharya Prashant: You see, it does not matter whether you call the emotion negative or positive. The first thing to understand is that when you…

प्रश्नकर्ता: प्रकृति हमें क्या सिखाती है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: कुछ सिखाती नहीं है, बस है। आप प्रकृति की बात कर रहे हैं। प्रकृति से तो यही जान लीजिए कि आपके भीतर जो प्रकृति बैठी है, वो बिलकुल वैसी ही है जैसे ये पेड़-पौधे, जानवर।

प्र: प्रकृति कितनी स्थिर और शांत लगती…

प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, अपने परिजनों की मृत्यु के साथ पीड़ा क्यों आती है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: दो बातें हैं मोटी-मोटी। पहली बात तो ये है कि जो कुछ भी अपना है वो अपनी हस्ती का, अपनी अस्मिता का अंग बन जाता है तो वो जब छिनता है तो ऐसा लगता है…

Questioner (Q): How can negative emotions be expressed healthily? Can expressing negative emotions like crying be maladaptive? Does gender have a relation to mental health?

Acharya Prashant (AP): It doesn't matter whether you call the emotion negative or positive. The first thing to understand is that when you start calling…

Questioner: Nowadays whenever I feel that I should not do something, I don't do it. I'm not planning much and this includes me not offering prayers to God. Is this okay?

Acharya Prashant: Arun (Questioner), that which we call as a feeling is not really so internal that may deserve…

प्रश्नकर्ता: काम को ले कर मैं पूरा श्रम नहीं करता; पता होते हुए भी नहीं करता। जैसे नींद आती है पढ़ाई के समय। एक तरह की बेईमानी भी है। उस काम में मेरी पूरी रुचि नहीं होने का एक कारण यह भी रहा है कि वो चीज़ मूल्यहीन लगती रही…

प्रश्नकर्ता: भावनाओं से अनछुए नहीं रह पाती हूँ। विवेक कहता है कि भावनाओं को देखो, उनसे प्रभावित नहीं हो लेकिन फ़िर भी मैं प्रभावित हो जाती हूँ। कभी चिल्ला देती हूँ, कभी रो देती हूँ, तो इससे कैसे निजात पाएं कि मन एकदम स्थिर हो जाए।

आचार्य प्रशांत: दो तरीके…

प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, मैं तो सच की राह पर ही चलना चाहता हूँ मेरे हिसाब से, लेकिन परिवार वाले कहते हैं, "तुम ज़िम्मेदारी निभाओ!" मतलब जो भी सामाजिक दायित्व हैं उनको पूरा करो, फैमिली (परिवार) बनाओ।

आचार्य प्रशांत: उनको बोलो, "फिर तुम काहे के लिए हो? हम ही सब करेंगे…

प्रश्नकर्ता: मैं एक घरेलू महिला हूॅं और दिनभर काम करते वक़्त दिमाग में विचार घूमते रहते हैं, इन पर काबू कैसे करें?

आचार्य प्रशांत: कभी भी ये ना कहिएगा कि मेरे विचार मेरे विचार है। बंदर को याद रखियेगा। आपके विचार आपके विचार नहीं है। आपको जो चाहो वो सुचवाया…

Questioner (Q): On one hand, I want to spiritually grow towards enlightenment, but at the same time, some side of me wants to have earthly freedom, experiences, like traveling. Even though I know that those things won’t bring me True Joy.

Are earthly pleasures a hindrance to spiritual growth?

Acharya…

Questioner: Sir, how to control our emotions?

Acharya Prashant: So, Shantanu is talking about controlling emotions. Let’s say Shantanu is driving his car. Do you drive your car in a controlled way or in an uncontrolled way? Obviously in a controlled way. Now, what is all control about? You are…

वक्ता: एक आम दिमाग कैसा होता है? एक आम दिमाग कैलकुलेटिव (गणनात्मक) होता है| तो, जब भी उसे दिखाना होता है कि अब वो कैल्कुलेट (सोच-विचार) नहीं कर रहा है, वो सच्चा है, वो बना-बना के नहीं बोल रहा है, वो जोड़-तोड़ नहीं कर रहा है, तो वो इमोशनल (भावुक)…

Acharya Prashant (AP): He is asking, “Is being moody good or not?”

But what are these moods? Do you know what these moods are? You take water in a saucer, in a saucer, a plate, and the water is lying still but if you keep the saucer under this fan,…

Acharya Prashant: Emotional outbursts to settled living.

What do you see in the topic itself? “Emotional outbursts to settled living.” What is happening here?

What is happening here is that the mind is desiring the movement from one place to another place. From place A to place B; emotional outbursts…

वक्ता: सम्मान वो नहीं है, जो हम समझते हैं। वो डर बस है। सम्मान के नाम पर हम डरे रहते हैं कि अगर किसी का सम्मान करते हो, तो उसके सामने मुँह न खोलो। वो डर बस है। सम्मान शब्द का अर्थ भी बस इतना ही होता है: ठीक से…

Questioner (Q): I have been following some of the pages on social media, and there is one topic that is quite “in” these days—which says, ‘no emotion is a mistake’. But I have heard you in the past, and you have said that emotions are intensified thoughts. So won’t that…

जब हमारा दमन होता है तब जिस ऊर्जा का दमन हो रहा होता है, वह ऊर्जा हममें सड़ने लगती है। वही ऊर्जा जो एक फूल बन सकती थी, काँटा बन जाती है। जिस ऊर्जा से विकास हो सकता था, वह थम कर बदबू देना शुरू कर देती हैl ऊर्जा…

प्रश्नकर्ता: एक वृत्तियों का बहाव होता है तो वो वाला हमारा है। वो चलता रहता है उसको देखना या उसको रोकना भी तो एक एक्शन (कर्म) हुआ?

आचार्य प्रशांत: देखो, जितने भी फ्लोज़ (बहाव) हैं, इनको रोकना या देखना, तुम जितनी भी इनके बारे में बातें करोगे उन सारी बातों…

Questioner: Is getting devoid of all emotions a part of feeling contented?

Acharya Prashant: Can you do that?

Why must we give importance to hypothetical questions? Can you really get rid of all emotions? And if you do, would that person be the same as this one? And if not,…

Question: Sir, when we lose a loved one in the form of a body, what happens actually is that the love remains intact but we lose that loved one in that physical form – the body. Please guide.

Acharya Prashant: There would anyway be so many thoughts, live in them.…

प्रश्नकर्ता: स्वीकृति, मान्यता हमारे लिए इतना महत्व क्यों रखती है? जब कोई नहीं होता तो हम ख़ुद अपने-आप को अपनी स्वीकृति देने लगते हैं।

आचार्य प्रशांत: स्वीकृति से, मान्यता से नियंत्रण का भाव आता है। "जो हो रहा है वो मेरे चाहे हो रहा है। मैं पूरे नियंत्रण में हूँ।…

श्रोता: सर एक बात समझ में नहीं आती कि हम हैं क्या? जो हमारी इन्द्रियाँ हमें दिखाती हैं हम वही हैं क्या या कुछ और?

वक्ता: हमें बड़ी आसानी हो जाती है यह मान लेने में कि जो कुछ भी दिखाई दे रहा है वो सिर्फ द्वैत का एक भ्रम…

प्रश्नकर्ता: सर, क्या किसी भी व्यक्ति की भावनाएँ ग़लत हो सकती हैं?

आचार्य प्रशांत: भावनाओं के अलावा और कुछ ग़लत होता ही नहीं!

भावना क्या है, इसको समझो।

जिसको तुम कहते हो कि अमुक व्यक्ति भावुक हो गया उसका अर्थ क्या है, इसको समझो। जब एक बच्चा पैदा होता है…

प्रश्न: इसका क्या मतलब है कि, “ट्रू ऑब्ज़रवेशन इज़ विदाउट थॉट(असली अवलोकन बिना विचार के होता है)”? इसको कृष्णमूर्ति बहुत बार कहते हैं कि, “ट्रू ऑब्जरवेशन इज़ ऑलवेज़ विदाउट थॉट।”

वक्ता: सोच-सोच के कुछ भी देख कैसे सकते हैं? थॉट विल एनलाइज़, थॉट विल नॉट ओब्ज़र्व, थॉट विल नॉट…

प्रश्नकर्ता: क्या संवेदनशीलता भी किसी प्रकार की वृत्ति है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: संवेदना–सम्+वेदना। मूल शब्द है ‘विद्’; ‘विद्’ का अर्थ है ‘जानना’। वो वही शब्द है जिससे वेद निकले हैं। ‘विद्’ से ‘विद्या’, वेदना उठती ही इसलिए है क्योंकि तुम्हारे भीतर कुछ है जो जानता है कि तुम्हारे तरीके झूठे हैं।…

Question: How can we control our emotions?

Speaker: How can you control something that you do not quite understand? Our friend here is controlling the operations of this camera. How is he able to control the operations? Because he understands the functioning, he knows what leads to what, he knows…